Donna Stellhorn

Donna Stellhorn

Practical Coaching for Wealth, Health and Love

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Relationships: Five Feng Shui Tips

In Feng Shui, the bedroom is the heart of the romance energy in the home.  Even though your "relationship" area of the Bagua Compass may not be in this room we have to consider the bedroom when you want to attract or maintain a good love relationship. 

Tip 1: Make your bedroom beautiful…or at least presentable. If you want to attract a new romance you have to have a bedroom that is ready to receive a guest. While you may think that the pile of dirty laundry in the corner and your old, torn comforter from college won’t be noticed by your date the truth is that you notice and you actually block potential suitors because your room is not ready to be seen. You spend a third of your day in this room, make it a beautiful place to be.

Tip 2: Move out the family pictures, it’s hard to have wild whoopee in front of the grandparents. Honor your family by placing portraits in the family room or gallery style in a hall. It will be much easier to have romance when the previous family generations are not staring back at you.

Tip 3: Get new sheets. We often associate past memories with objects even if we are not conscious of it. New sheets symbolize a fresh start and will help rekindle an existing relationship as well.

Tip 4: Get rid of the teddy bear...and the other 400 bean-bag animals should go too. Stuff animals are given to children who have to sleep alone. If you want some human company box up the menagerie for a while. They can visit you again when he has to fly to Cleveland for business.

Tip 5: Add a bell. Hang a sweet sounding bell in the room and ring it often. Each time you ring the bell think of the love you want to attract.

Feng Shui is very powerful. Even a small change can bring results in just a few days. After making one change try another, then another. By making small changes every week you can keep the romance energy flowing.

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Love at Your Front Door

Even though the front door is associated with the energy of career in Feng Shui, it's still the front door and therefore it's the portal that all new energy comes through. This makes the front door the most direct energy flow for attracting a new love.

The relationship area and, of course, the bedroom are also very good places to set love energy cures but since they are so far from the front door you can give the energy an extra boost by placing romance cures on the front porch, on the front door, or in the foyer.

As with all Feng Shui cures the more in harmony the cure is with what you are trying to attract the better results you will receive. For instance if you are interested in attracting a lover then finding pairs of things that are intertwined will more symbolize that energy. You could take two climbing plants and weave them together on one lattice. You could enhance the front door with an herbal wreath decorated with a braided ribbon. Or in the foyer you could place a statue of a couple in embrace.

If you are more interested in attracting a friendship that grows into love then you want pairs of objects that sit side by side or pairs that touch. Objects don't need to be identical pairs. Using identical pairs indicates you're looking for someone who really understands you and thinks like you. Contrasting pairs indicate you're looking for someone who is very different than you are but is still very compatible. Contrasting pairs can be the same object in different colors or can be two objects that fit together as a puzzle.

You can also use pairs of objects that have energy of harmony between them such as the figurine of a small rabbit with the figurine of a deer. You would not want to pair a little rabbit with an eagle because the resulting energy is one animal is powerful and the other animal is lunch.

Every month or so go out and dust off your Feng Shui cures to reactivate the energy and keep it strong.